I kind of think this is something that parents and teachers and coaches need to be taught, not kids. I would never want anyone to tell either of my sons (esp not the previously shy, quiet one) to stop being bossy if all he was doing was trying to lead a group project or organize a game of recess basketball, but I am fine with someone telling him to tone it down if he's being too aggressive, or not letting others be heard.
Am I off the mark because I think what's good for the girls is also good for the boys? Is it ok to tell boys not to be so bossy?