http://www.parenting.com/article/mad-at-dad?page=0,0
One thing I figured out was that it's partly about style. I am a get up and get it done'er. He's a chill out and wake up slowly then get to it'er. So, part of my problem is patience. He will eventually do what needs to be done, just not immediately (when I want want it done, and think it makes more sense to do it!).