Absolutely. Although I hear that the biggest transition is two to three, but then it's all the same after that.
We had a very sleepless night and if I may joke so that I don't cry from sheer exhaustion-- I am out of practice with this whole not sleeping thing! I used to be really good at it. Now, not so much. I've already dropped the phone in our puppy's water bowl, and had to make coffee twice (those things are unrelated. Obviously.).
This is why I am happy to have had my kids close together; I got all my long-term sleep deprivation out of the way at one time. Sure, I didn't sleep for 3 years straight, but then...ahhh, sweet sleep. Of course, others may argue that they needed a break before delving into the sleeplessness with the next baby, but that wasn't my choice. Oh, and also, I hear that some babies actually let their parents sleep. But I apparently forgot to check that box on my baby order form. Ok, well before I start rambling on...
"The win is supporting other parents along the way, despite differences in faith, education, and family size."
I survived two under two! It was not horrible, and I'd recommend having your kids close together to anyone!
As soon as you have a baby, people want you to have another-- but then remark at how close together your kids are! People are crazy :)
I may have been known to exaggerate before, but I am not lying when I say that every time we are out, I am asked by multiple people if my boys are twins.
My children are close in age, yes, yes, I can acknowledge that. To me, they look nothing alike; sure, family resemblance and all, but a far cry from twins. (And I know that mothers of twins probably think that also, and that not all twins look alike.)
SO, although it gets old, I will just smile and say, "No, not twins, just close in age" or something similar. Usually that's met with, "Oh they look so much alike!", "Oh well they're adorable", "Eighteen months apart?! No way!" or the occasional, "Wow, you must be really busy!"
But I was not prepared for the lecture I had to endure while simply trying to make a return to a store last week. It went something like this:
"No, year and a half apart, but I get that all the time."
"Oh. That's like my younger two boys. They're 19 months apart. It was horrible. It was so hard when they were little, and I kept hoping it would get better, but it doesn't. They just fought and fought as they got older..."
"Aww, they actually play really nicely together. ::Forcing a smile:: We have our moments, but I love it this way."
"Well it's probably because I know how great it was to have them farther apart. I got to spend so much more time with each of them. When they're this close, you don't get to enjoy them, and they never get your full attention. It's a shame, really. And oh, just wait till they get a little older- ugh!"
"Do I need to swipe my card? No, ok thanks."
And me and my neglected twins left.
Was she trying to be helpful? Did she not realize that she was criticizing me? Did she think by talking that I could magically have a do-over?
Even if I did, I'd do it the exact same way. I LOVE that my boys are close in age and close friends. Oh, and that diapers only existed in my house for 4.5 years start to finish :)
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