These aren't my exact feelings, but they're certainly familiar.
I just saw a post that I think was meant to be funny, but is just untrue: All the homeschoolers are laughing at us fools trying to teach our kids.
Aside from homeschooling being very different than virtual school or distance learning, I don't think anyone is laughing at anyone.
We weren't/aren't homeschoolers, but as someone who has worked from home for a while, I'm not laughing at those who are just realizing the struggles. I empathize and laugh/cringe with you while you tell the story of how a client called right as the mail came and your dog lost their mind. And how you were in the middle of an important pitch and your kid-- who was making grilled cheese by themself while you were trying to keep your job-- set off the fire alarm. But no one's laughing out of spite or smugness.
While teachers are in the spotlight, I think it would be really hard to find ANYONE whose job hasn't changed in some way in the last 6 months. And I don't see anyone laughing about it (unless it's laughing so we don't cry, which I have done/seen some of hahaha).
Even more true this year as many efforts will go unrecognized.
And "maneuvering" through the school year seems like the perfect word. Whether you're flying through or struggling, it all takes a fair amount of maneuvering.
Haha this was pretty close to my schedule for several years.
(Better now that the kids are older.)
Rage Against the Minivan. It sounds a little fist in the air/storm the castle/smash the patriarchy (and it is) but it's also raw and vulnerable and real.
I had a chance to see a little bit of the behind the scenes of the development of the book, a peek behind the curtain, and I instantly loved the message. I've been following the blog of the same name for quite a while, so I knew Kristen's style, and I thought I knew her story. I was wrong... (Spoiler alert, not everything you see on the internet is true...or the full story.)
A few years ago (almost 10!), I had the chance to review Good Enough is the New Perfect. It was like a revelation-- the only one demanding 'perfect' from me, was me. While Good Enough was a self help format, RATM is more of a memoir. But it's not all about Kristen. It's about all of us, as we try to figure out how being a parent is everything we always wanted and nothing we ever imagined.
Kristen is an (ex) marriage and family therapist, and while the expertise shines through, the judgement is left behind. It's not preachy. Speaking of preachy, faith-- and organized religion more specifically-- is tricky. Don't worry, she lets you laugh along with her there too. Marriage, infertility, miscarriage*, adoption, a career, pregnancy, divorce, babies, teens, stay at home mom, multiracial families, religion-- she covers it all, not necessarily in that order.
More than anything this book invites you to give yourself a little grace. We can say no. We can opt out. We can RAGE AGAINST THE MINIVAN (even if there's one in your driveway). This book is funny (really funny) and has moments of levity, but also covers really deep, heavy topics (there's truly something for everyone; she just happened to go through all of it!) that left me wiping tears.
You will see yourself in this book. And isn't that what we all want? To feel seen? Rage Against the Minivan is not a 'how to'; it's a 'let's do this thing'. So let's do it. Together. I'll pick you up; I have a minivan.
Today I said, "You don't have to get me anything for Christmas. All I want is for you to do something the first time I ask."
I leveled up in Parenting, right? I crossed some sort of guilt threshold and am advancing to Old Lady?
Just because you'll miss it some day does not make the struggle easier today.
(This is meant to be funny, but once more just in case the people in the back didn't get it: don't add to someone's current load by adding guilt and sadness about their future.)
DBA Kara Kinney Cartwright
If you are struggling to make your holiday happen with your littles "helping" you, just remember that they will grow up and leave someday and you will be able to get things done much faster.
"We really do ask women to do it all—and then we don’t even pay them for it."
The best way to get your kid off Xbox is to say mildly embarrassing things while they're on the mic with their friends.
At least they won 🤗
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