I totally agree. It's so hard to remember in the moment, but I really try to let my kids plead their case. I cannot stand when someone tries to shut me down.
Good read. Have to balance keeping them safe without breaking their will. Pick and choose your rules.
Not MY kid.
An expansion of the thoughts in my Ban Bossy post on Monday, expanded really well (by someone else...)
I'm a big supporter of girls-- I AM a girl-- but I don't know about this 'bossy' thing. There's a difference between 'confident' and 'strong' and 'leadership', and 'bossy'. You can take a leadership role, or assert yourself, without being BOSSY. Maybe it's just semantics, and since I know the difference, I'm not bothered by it-?
I kind of think this is something that parents and teachers and coaches need to be taught, not kids. I would never want anyone to tell either of my sons (esp not the previously shy, quiet one) to stop being bossy if all he was doing was trying to lead a group project or organize a game of recess basketball, but I am fine with someone telling him to tone it down if he's being too aggressive, or not letting others be heard.
Am I off the mark because I think what's good for the girls is also good for the boys? Is it ok to tell boys not to be so bossy?
Help out a friend--
"I'm a single mother I live with my mom and my three year old son, I met a new boyfriend and my son absolutely loves him but he's starting to act out, he's still very well behaved for my mom when I go out but as soon as I walk in the door he starts screaming. We have gone on 5 dates on the last two weeks and 3 of them we have brought my son with us, we are trying to include him because he is such a huge part of my life. But it's very frustrating when my son is acting out in such a drastic way and only for me, he's still sweet as pie for everyone else."
Any help or suggestions?
The fastest way to feel better about your own child's behavior is to volunteer in their classroom.
Does anyone have any tips to stop toddlers from biting? Anything you've found that works? Not works?
As much as we'd sometimes like to just take the "I'm the parent, so do what I say" method, it does make more sense (and is more effective) to try to figure out your child-- as puzzling as that may be.
Take a look at this personality-type behavior chart. Perhaps it's not an absolute solution, but I think it provides some good insight.
Do you have any pretty little "liars" in your house?
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