Note to self (and you):
fav(Ahh, I hate when people write long impassioned comments, but I've written and deleted this like 5 times in the last 6 weeks so...)
Since school started this year (really, since it ended abruptly in March), I've seen lots of praise for teachers, and the large majority of that praise is warranted. Good job and thank you!
But ya' know who's not getting any of the credit? The kids. They're also dealing with the same situation, learning in completely new ways, working outside the normal hours (and walls) of school, in programs they've never dealt with before.
And I don't see any of the same praise or understanding extended to them.
My kids' (excellent, competent) teachers make mistakes every single day. They post a broken link, an incorrect article, can't figure out why their screen all of a sudden won't share, thought they posted an assignment 10 days ago but it never went live, etc. Sometimes they realize, sometimes the students have to point it out to them, sometimes it's corrected, sometimes not, and the kids adapt and deal with it. That's understandable, it's bound to happen.
But when a student's internet blinks and they get kicked out, a mic or speaker goes out for a moment and they miss something important, or they submitted an assignment and it wasn't received on the teacher's end, there is no understanding, and no grace.
If you know me (and my husband, but moreso me haha), we take school, and accountability overall, pretty seriously. I'm not looking for a free pass. I'm looking for the same grace that's extended to teachers, to be extended to students.
If it's rough on you as an adult, try to imagine how hard the kids (little and big!) are working to keep up.
I've been thinking about making this instagram page for years, and finally decided to do it in honor of National Library Week!
The name is quite literal-- most of my books are borrowed (see the link in my profile to check your local library!), and most of my time spent reading is borrowed from something else I should be doing (working, sleeping...).
Because of those two things, many of the featured books will not be new releases (although you'd be surprised what you can find at the library!), but follow along for some recommendations, reviews, and favorite quotes.
It's not a battle of 'hard' or a battle of 'sad'. You're allowed to be sad for something that should be happening-- even if it's 'petty' or simple, or other people are enduring/have endured worse. It's still hard.
Sure it might feel silly in the big picture, but it's real.
My kids are disappointed that their seasons ended abruptly in the middle of basketball playoffs. Will there even be a baseball season? No March Madness tournament at school-- something they look forward to for competition, camaraderie, and charity. The same goes for the arts-- will the play be cancelled or shut down?
It's not "just a game"; it's thousands of hours of hard work and preparation that are instantly taken away. Of course we sacrifice the game instead of the health of many, but it doesn't mean it's not hard.
I took interdisciplinary classes (lit that counted for history, physics that counted for math) to get around it, but it's still a waste.
Just because you'll miss it some day does not make the struggle easier today.
(This is meant to be funny, but once more just in case the people in the back didn't get it: don't add to someone's current load by adding guilt and sadness about their future.)
DBA Kara Kinney Cartwright
If you are struggling to make your holiday happen with your littles "helping" you, just remember that they will grow up and leave someday and you will be able to get things done much faster.
This is great. I could clip so many quotes!
"...having been ignored for so long, we have learned not to complain. Not to complain about the raises we never got, the peak earnings that passed us by, the corner offices we might never see because the boomers won’t seem to retire and the millennials deserve it now, right?
But being a Gen Xer isn’t about wallowing in middle-child angst.
...We wrote the template on messing up and oversharing. We just didn’t post it all over the place."
I usually claim Xennial, but I'm squarely GenX as defined here.
I agree with this do-over philosophy.
Maybe a point is deducted for lateness, or you can no longer get 100 after 2 tries, or some stipulation to show accountability and timeliness, but this is totally valid. Redoing it shows that they care to get it right!
My son's Language Arts teacher allowed them to resubmit written assignments for a potential higher grade after editing and making corrections-- that's how writing works! Few things are once and done. The most highly esteemed writers have editors, and submit many, many rounds of rewrites; why should kids be expected to get it right on the first try?
Listen up young entrepreneurs and inventors: I've given these million-dollar ideas away before; I need someone to get on it!
A screen that let's the cool air in, but keeps the nature sounds out (I'm not a Disney princess, I don't want to be woken up at 5am by birds).
Windows with built-in thermostats that close when it reaches a certain temperature. No more falling asleep to the awesome Fall-like air and waking up in the tundra! And while we're making shit up, let's add a rain sensor in to the design.
With a love of children and a passion for reading and writing, Kelly decided to share her experiences with others through the pages of the Crib Notes book and site.
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