I have certainly tried crazier (and less-effective) methods...
"Genes play the biggest role in getting toddlers to sleep through the night, but environmental factors are more important for daytime naps..."
Interesting. I wasn't a CIO'er, partially because I don't think babies are 'programmable' in this way. If it honestly works for you and allows you and your household-- and your baby-- to get more sleep, go for it. But this is interesting no matter which side of the 'argument' you're on.
Haha, crystal clear, right?
Oh this was the story of my life for a while...
This is just another reason I think it's good to have your kids close together-- you're awake for like 3 years straight, but then you finally, finally, get some rest. It's actually harder when you get a break in the middle but then have to do it all over after remembering what true sleep really feels like ;)
__No matter what method you follow (or no method at all!), you have to remember that it's not just your child having these "problems".
I'm pretty sure this is not a true definition: "Experts call it co-sleeping -- when children prefer to sleep in their parents' bed."
There is a huge difference between parents who choose to have their children co-sleep, and kids who will not stay in their own beds.
TO ME, these sound more like tips for helping a child who is scared/anxious about the dark, or who is transitioning into a bed (from crib or from parents' bed).
Use (or not) as you'd like!
"I co-slept with my babies out of desperation so that I could get some sleep with they were young. Now, I want them to spend the night in their own rooms." ~ me too, exactly!
Let me hear your best suggestions for getting a child to sleep~ the more unconventional the better!
As always, we welcome all opinions and methods; bring 'em on!
All the time changing business resulted in kids sleeping late on Monday morning ~ nice! I will hesitantly say that we've reached the ages where adapting to a change in schedule does not mean 2 days of meltdowns :)
"How's he sleeping for you?"
That was one of the most-asked questions when I was a new mom. "Um, we're doing pretty well." Yeah, if "well" means catnaps during the day and maybe three hours between feedings at night...
Neither of my boys were great sleepers as infants. Blame it on their nature, blame it on breastfeeding, blame it on our practices, we could play this game all day. Through a change to one of the factors above, or perhaps just natural development, they became good sleepers (eventually).
"I hafta do pee-pee!" is usually the only reason my 3-year-old gets up at night. The bathroom's dark, he needs help, that's fine. My two-year-old wakes up for a drink and goes right back to sleep. Again, that's fine. Lately he's been resisting going back to sleep, but we know that'll be short-lived so we're working through it.
I actually like spending time with my kids and even helping them get to sleep (when needed). You're a parent, your kids' security is your main job-- even if that means losing 15 min of sleep a night. (Some of you are thinking this is the root of why our babies didn't sleep. That's fine too- to each her own.)
ANYWAY, my point, and I do have one around here somewhere, is that different kids have different sleep schedules. That's it, glad you read all that?
Just kidding. I'm sure you could find a lot of differing research on this, so consider this rough, basic info for the sake of the discussion. Infants 0-9 months need about 12-15 hours of sleep. That decreases only slightly for 9-18-month olds, requiring 11-14 hours of sleep. The bigger difference may lie in the division of sleep.
Your baby takes three 1-hour naps and four 3-hour stretches at night? Four 30-minute naps and two 6-hour lengths overnight? Six 20-minute naps and six 2-hour stretches at night? That last one's unfortunate but not entirely unrealistic to some. 15 hours sounds like a lot, but depending how it's broken up makes a huge difference.
Naps are important to me. Not just for sanity, but because I work from home. (The SAHM v WAHM v WOHM argument should not even be a competition. I'll tackle that another day, but for now the explanation is that I have a paying job that splits my time between office and home.)
The hours in which my boys are sleeping, or older is at school and younger is napping, are my Power Hours. I have figured out how to get work done while they are here and awake (laptop is a train platform/sippycup holder/book prop/etc.) but I can get more done in those few quiet hours than the rest of the day combined.
I love that, many days, I have to wake them up after 3 hours. They sleep about 9.5-10 hours at night, which has them up pretty early, but works for our schedule. Yes, OUR schedule. It has to be a joint effort. If you try to schedule your kids too much, it always backfires. And I'm about as type-A as it comes, so just trust me and save yourself a lot of hassle.
If it was up to you (which we've established that it only partially is) how would you divide your child's sleeping hours?
[This was my second go-round at this post (erasing incident due in part to 2-year-old laptop child, and part to ancient pos laptop computer). But total recall of 98% of what I just wrote is a skill (?). Of course that 2% was probably the best part but oh well. Alas, my english degree was not a waste afterall...]
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