Normal. Not perfect, not horribly imperfect, just normal.
Jill Smokler, AKA Scary Mommy, has a new book that, like her well-known blog, does just that. With the irreverence we’ve come to expect and love, Confessions of a Scary Mommy strikes down the notion of the perfect mother, and shares the imperfections that make us great.
We may not all have the same number of kids, the same job, the same outlook on parenting, or any of the same experiences, but simply being a mom makes this book relatable. And the fastest way to make a mom feel better is to know that other moms are struggling right along with her.
“Leaving the hospital…they didn’t want to inspect our home to see whether it was baby-ready or do a thorough background check on either one of us…we could have been serial killers and they wouldn’t have known or cared.”
As we know all-too-well, there is no instruction manual for babies. Knowing that everyone is just learning as we go, and messing up in the process, helps. The sometimes heartbreaking, sometimes laugh-out-loud funny, sometimes so familiar, candid confessions from other moms that pad each chapter are a huge bonus.
If you don’t have a sense of humor, or catch an out-of-context quote, you may occasionally think she truly is scary. But reading any post, or any chapter, makes it abundantly clear that she is a good and loving—albeit scary—mom.
I’m adding this to my list of recommended reading for new moms. Based on the free time new moms have, that means they should get to it by the time their child hits preschool…which is when they’ll start to really need it. ; )