Every one of these is utterly rude. Some of them may have gone through my own (crazy) brain about myself, but I would never even think to say them to someone else.
If your partner talks to you like this, you need to have a serious discussion, then leave them home with the kids and house and see how they do.
http://www.scarymommy.com/articles/9-questions-not-to-ask-stay-at-home-parents?section=advice-andamp-lessons&u=unknown