I’ve said it to my parents, I’ve said it to my friends, and I’ve said it to myself (both in response to someone’s ridiculousness and in dismissal of something that didn’t go as planned). But whatever doesn’t work here anymore.
Ellen Lubin-Sherman’s The Essentials of Fabulous: Because Whatever Doesn’t Work Here Anymore is as close as you’re going to get to an instruction manual on how to be great. And no, needing an instruction manual does not disqualify you from becoming fabulous. Because, after all, “no one is born fabulous.”
Lubin-Sherman points out that most fabulousness, or fabulosity if you will, can be attributed to simple manners. Everyone is so concerned with being “cool”, but what about being genuinely warm? A nod, a smile, a physical indication of being interested, these things all go a long way to others perceiving you as fabulous—even if you don’t yet believe it yourself.
Old-fashioned communication (a handwritten note) and accessibility (answering your phone instead of sending to voicemail!) are key to engaging your friends, colleagues, and associates. Think about it—the people who you most respect probably live by these often forgotten but easily-accomplished actions.
And although dressing the part is always good advice, that ‘fake it till you make it’ approach will only get you so far. If you are not genuine, people will see right through you. Adopting a good attitude is a step in the right direction, but you must genuinely be interested in your work and in the people that you surround yourself with.
Speaking of people, we so often get caught up in our “networks”, but really that’s a just a new techie name for your circle of friends! The way to achieve that quality network is by being fabulous. And the way to be fabulous is to share instead of hide your “secrets” of success. Oh, and the other way to be fabulous is to read Lubin-Sherman’s new book.